Monday, November 24, 2008

Free Thanksgiving copywork, NB pages, Lapbook, book recommendations! :)

Since Thanksgiving is Thursday, I am taking a "break" from our normal literature and history schedule to spend the next few days enjoying America's TRUE Thanksgiving history! I have found NUMEROUS free items and have not had to buy anything so I thought I would "share the wealth!"
"Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you." ~1 Thessalonians 5:18


As we read and study the Bible in chronological order, we will continue our regular readings for the week as we make our way through God's word. We will, however, be focusing on thankfulness in our devotions. We use SEVERAL devotional books throughout our Bible Study- this way I always KNOW I have one that relates to what we need.

Here are a few good books we use as children's devotions and the page numbers we'll use this week:
God and Me! Devotions fo Girls Ages 2-5 -
`Pages 71-71 - Sharing - we will discuss the sharing of blessings that took place between the Indians and the Pilgrims. We'll also begin discussing ideas for our service work for this term and really look at just how blessed we are to have love and family during this season.
-Pp. 74-75 - Comfort - discussion on the losses the Pilgrims suffered (the lost lives) during that first year and how Jesus kept them strong and comforted them.
-PP. 78-9 - Compromise - "Two are Better than one." ~ Ecclesiastes 4:9 - the relationship between the indians and pilgrims and how they survived with their help.
-Pp. 82-3 - Possessiveness - "Be devoted to one another in brotherly love." -Romans 12:10
Gotta Have God! Fun Devotions for Boys - Ages 6-9 -

Pp. 58-9 - God's Awesome Power - trusting in God - The Pilgrims put all of their faith in God and He provided for them
Pp. 70-1 - God's Awesome Power- God's strength -
Pp. 84-5 - God wants me to share with others
Pp. 88-9- Big things can happen when I pray
Pp. 130-1 - God will not forget me
Leading Little Ones to God
Chapter 13 - God is Faithful
Chapter 18 - God Always Does What Is Best


"Just and true are thy ways, thou King of saints." ~ Revelation 15:3
Chapter 28- God Takes Care of Us



Chapter 29 - God Turns Our Troubles into Good



Chapter 30- God's Angels Watch Over Us



"But if we have food and clothing, with these we will be content." ~ 1Timothy 6:8




Child's Prayers for this week:


"For what we are about to recieve May the Lord make us truly thankful. Amen. " ~ Anonymous



"O God, I thank Thee for all the joy I have had in my life." ~ Earl Brithnoth



"Thou art great And Thou art good, And we thank Thee for this food. " ~ Traditional



"God is great, God is good, and we thank Him for our food. By His hands we all are fed, Give us Lord our daily bread. Amen. " ~ Traditional



"Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in Thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer." ~ Psalm 19

Books that we are reading this week:

"Mary of Plymouth: A Story of the Pilgrim settlement" by James Otis. IF you take advantage of it right away - (before Monday, Dec. 1st - you can obtain a FREE copy of this book at Homeschool Freebie of the Day. Click on the link and downoload a free version of this fascinating "living book". This book is on the "Living Books Curriculum" 1st grade booklist.





"Pilgrim Stories, Book III - Little Pilgrims & The Red Men" by Margaret Pumphrey. You may also find this title free for download this week at Homeschool Freebie of the Day. Click here for the link. Description from Homeschool Freebie of the Day site -




"Pilgrim Stories III: Little Pilgrims & The Red Men (PDF ebook) - This absolutely delightful three part serialization of the story of the Pilgrims - perfect for “read aloud” and sharing with the kids
over the next couple of weeks! In Part Three, we learn how children from the Pilgrim settlements fared with their encounters with their Native American neighbors - this includes some outstanding stories of danger, adventure & friendship! Also included in Part Three: A short but helpful “Teacher’s Guide” to learning more about the Pilgrims’ life and times through play-acting and other fun activites. Great stuff! SPECIAL NOTE: All three parts of
“Pilgrim Stories” will remain available here on the site for you until the end
of this week, so be sure you get them all… and tell a friend!


Here are the link for Book I & II.

Book I - "From Old Homes to New"


Book II - "The Wild Land & Thanksgiving"








YES! They are being so incredibly generous for this gracious time of year! YET ANOTHER freebie that is STILL available this week from Homeschool Freebie of the Day! Here is the description from their site:

"An Old Fashioned Thanksgiving by Louisa May Alcott (PDF ebook) - In this delightful short story, the author of “Little Women” tells this classic tale that re-captures the celebration of Thanksgiving as it wasobserved in the early 1820s in rural New England. It is a tale full of family, fun, humor, long-lost
traditions, and the smells and tastes of a Thanksgiving day “way back when”.






" Three Young Pilgrims" by Cheryl Harness - I REALLY like this book. It is exactly what I want out of a "Living history Book" for my young children. It is both well written and beautifully illustrated. The author tells the story from the viewpoint of three young children of the Allerton family. It is a book about a family which is in MHO exactly what Charlotte Mason called for in a "living book." For your visual learner - the illustrations are great! The book begins with a fascinating map of their journey and the following page has an illustration of a ship with the bottom "cut away" so the children can have an idea of the ship's layout. It also helps to see just how CRAMPED the space was. I will note that Mama and the new baby pass away in this book so you may want to take note for younger or sensitive children. I have one daughter in particular I was careful with explanation in the story because she is quite sensitive.






"Thanksgiving on Plymouth Plantation" by Diane StanleyGREAT little book discussing the true meanings behind Thanksgiving. There is an author's note in the back for parents giving a nice timeline of the true dates of "Thanksgiving Day". Depending on the age of your children - you can discuss the information there.





Here is a map of America in 1621. Point out to the children how large Virginia is (just as they say in "Thanksgiving on Plymouth Plantation."

Find a FREE lapbook minitbook to go with this map
here.



Crossing of the Mayflower Map from
Enchanted Learning -



The Pilgrims' Voyage Map & Mayflower Projectx at Enchanted Learning.





"The Story of the Pilgrims" - by Katharine Ross - There were a couple (2) negative reviews about this little "Read to Me" book on Amazon. They noted the "historical inaccuracies" of the book because the Pilgrims were not Pilgrims at first but Separatists. While I agree with this comment - I chose to still read this book to my children. It is delightfully illustrated and gives a very brief overview of Thanksgiving. It was clearly written for YOUNG children, however, while I am using the other books for a more historical standpoint - I chose to read them this book for enjoyment. My fear being that the text is quite simplified so it could easily be considered "twaddle". For this reason- we are reading it as a bedtime - type book. You will have to decide if you want to read it to your children. I wanted to make everyone aware of the negative comments. :)




Easy Reader -

"I am the Turkey" - An I can Read! Book 2 - This is a cute little book. I will tell you there is one or two spots of young humor that is a bit crude - crude may be a strong word - there's an incident with a brother's nose. Although this book is about a school play - my children still enjoy it and I love how the boy decides to help out in the end although he didn't want to be the turkey. This is NOT a Charlotte Mason type book or educational book - just purley a bit of fun for Thanksgiving and for us - a book that is easy enough for my son to read independently to his sisters. :)





Thanksgiving Handicraft & Art Ideas:

Decorating the House Together -
NOTE: Something I do not consider twaddle but rather an enjoyable time with my children is decorating our home for the holidays. I understand the desire to stay away from "busy" projects that are just that - projects to keep the children busy. However, I find that baking, cooking, and decorating with my kids add to our holidays. I have chosen projects - art, baking, decorating, etc. that we are using this year for fun but that do have a place in the home during this season. My children are still young (7, 5, & 5 yos) so a string of cut out leaves to dawn our dining room doorway might be fun and bonding for my children and I - someone with a 15 year old might not. To me - twaddle is at the discretion of the mother and family and what's right for you. Anyway - here's what we're hoping to do. :)










My children had a bit of a difficult time cutting out the more detailed leaves from their leaf template so instead, they began using real leaves to draw and color their own leaves and then I helped cut them out. It was more fun, creative, and they recieved a study in leaves and their shapes and characteristics without realizing it :)!



Corn Husk Dolls- What a GREAT time to do this project! I've had the husks dried out for some time just waiting on the opportunity to make these with my daughters and here it is! I found SEVERAL links to instructions in this native american craft and they all seem basically the same other than different patterns in the "skirts" and "legs". Just choose which you and your children like best!













These Corn-Print Placemats also caught my eye- I LOVE setting the dining room up for the holidays- esepecially when it is done at no/low cost and created by the hearts and hands of our family! :) We have a modest home, nothing fancy to it but I believe when you decorate with your children - with things made with your children - you look around and see the power of family and love and most importantly our Lord!.

These also go great with the placecards you can print out on cardstock and create from the FREE Thanksgiving lapbook from Melissa (below). Just have your kids use similar colors as your fabric paint and you're coordinated!





Ship Shaped Favors- http://familyfun.go.com/arts-and-crafts/season/feature/famf117tabletop/famf117tabletop5.html





These were just adorable ~ and that's all ! :) Just plain old adorable!







Autumn Wreath: What better way to invite your guests in than with an autumn wreath - celebrating the end of the season! The kids and I took branches from our flowering pear trees while the leaves were still beautiful! They had turned to an amazing burgundy color. We carefully bent the branches into circles and used bag ties and gardeners' twine to hold the branches together (you can use just about anything and cover it with bows or flowers). We read that you can also soak the branches in water first to make them more pliable but we didn't have to do this. We then walked the yard and found pinecones (you could use acorns or anything you find in your own yard) and picked some autumn colored flowers (we used yellow lantanna).

I brought the wreath and our finds in the house and used a hot glue gun (adult's job of course) to glue all of the different cones and flowers to the wreath. We added some seasonal ribbon that I picked up for $1 at Walmart and then gathered some more of the pear tree leaves to glue on. We used the extra leaves to fill in holes or cover pieces of the twine that was showing through. My husband happened to bring home some strawberry popcorn indian corn that he was given at work and it was perfect! Certainly not professional ;) but the BEST wreath I've ever had! WE are so proud of it and the enjoyable few days we took in gathering and creating it! If you can do just one project - we REALLY enjoyed this one! :)



Free Materials:

Free Thanksgiving Lapbook - from Melissa Telling -









It is their free page. For Thanksgiving, she has a coloring page, several notebooking pages with Thanksgiving designs and lined paper, and also a card you can print out for your kids to make.





She also has a "Student Sheet for your homeschool yearbook" page on this freebies list. I realize it may not have much to do with Thanksgiving but if you've not started anything like this (we hadn't until I saw this) - it might be a fun project to sit and do together with your children on Thanksgiving Day (you know - :) between the cooking and serving and entertaining :)) Part of it Provides a place for your child to note what they are most thankful for right now. Its a great time of year to take time and do this together then allow the kids to decorate around the box (while you cook :) as a fun project :).















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Friday, November 21, 2008

Character & Etiquette - FREE copywork - The Goops


Character & Etiquette -
"Goops Style"
(free copywork below)
For those of you who have not heard poetry about "The Goops" ~ you are missing out! :)
These DELIGHTFUL poems have been enjoyed by children and families since 1900. They are amusing little poems written by author/illustrator Gelett Burgess some 100 years ago that teach children how NOT to behave!

THE GOOP DIRECTORY
OF
Juvenile Offenders Famous for their Misdeeds and Serving as a Salutary Example for all Virtuous Children


with Pictures by
GELETT BURGESS
Author of "Goops," "The Lively City o' Ligg," etc.


Mr. Burgess' hilarious "Goops" poems go over everything from not eating your crust to playing with matches! I happened across "Table Manners" last year while looking for some poetry for my young children. It has been enjoyed over and over by my family since. We often laugh at the dinner table and call one another a "Goop" if a bad manner is observed! :) Much more fun than constantly scolding and nagging.

I have found that my children WANT to have better manners so as not to "BE A GOOP!" Of course, for direct disobedience- a joke is not the way to go. But for those thoughtless times when one of them (especially the five year old twins who seem to ALWAYS tell a story at the same time!) becomes so excited about thier part in the story being told that they slip and speak with food in their mouth or forget their fork ~ "The Goops" seem to work quite well! :)

I attempted to find a portrait of Mr. Burgess for our timeline but could not seem to locate one. I did find the "Self Portrait" above on the right and I think we will print this out and post it on our timeline for his year of birth (1866). It's interesting to note that the infamous ""Purple Cow: Reflections on a Mythic Beast Who's Quite Remarkable, at Least" poem was also written by Mr. Gelett Burgess. It first appeared in a magazine, "The Lark" on May 1, 1895. To the right please find a picture of that first issue if you'd like to also add this to your timeline. It turns out, Mr. Burgess primarily edited and wrote this periodical - under a pseudonym. The story of this can be found here as well as on other sites the web.
Although the children and I QUITE enjoyed "The Purple Cow" it appears Mr. Burgess was not fond of being known for writing it.

Upon being associated with this poem, he wrote "Confession: and a Portrait Too, Upon a Background that I Rue" in "The Lark", number 24 on April 1, 1897.

Ah, yes, I wrote the "Purple
Cow"

I'm Sorry, now, I wrote it;

But I can tell you Anyhow

I'll Kill you if you Quote it!

Among other places, "Purple Cow" is listed in Favorite Poems of Childhood" compiled by Philip Smith. You can also find a copy directly from Dover Publishing here. "The Purple Cow" in audio can be found for FREE here. I also found a free coloring page of a cow here for those with much younger children who want to print it and let the children color her purple. :) I simply googled "cow coloring page" and MORE than I cared to imagine popped up :). There is also a "Purple Cow Craft" found here.

I realize this is quite "twaddly" for most but when reading and discussing poetry with an older child - these "twaddly" coloring pages have come in QUITE handy for my younger twins! As well as sometimes to help my VERY kinesthetic son to have something to keep his hands on while he listens. I simply prefer it to watching their knees bounce or chairs come off the floor and back down again :)

Now- on to the promised copywork...
"The Goops" found themselves into several books and Mr. Burgess provided us with a very gentle way of teaching manners (habits). Of course, these poems will never take the place of parents providing good foundations in habit and child training but they are a fun bit to add in with your poetry studies. Anything that assists with good character building is welcome here!

A Free copy of "The Goops Directory" can be found here on Project Gutenberg in the public domain.

A FREE copy of "More Goops and How Not to be Them" can be found here in printable format
These are great for supplements to character training and study, for a short "mini" unit on the poet himself, or a "Fun Friday" copywork! :) However you choose to add "The Goops" into your homeschool or child training - they are a true delight!

Today, we worked on the poem "Anabella Day- Obeying Slowly." We read the poem together, lauged a bit :) , and then they produced copywork of the poem. I compiled some copywork with a coloring page for this particular poem. There is a large page with the picture below resized so it can be colored and there are three sets of copywork. The first set would be for older students - the poem is listed above and there are two pages of penmanship paper where your child can copy the poem. The second set has the poem written out on the penmanship paper with two or three lines directly below each set for the child to use. The third set (and probably for your youngest student/child) allows the child to trace/write INSIDE of the letters to create the poem. I hope you enjoy these copywork pages as well as the little gems that are "The Goops" poetry!










Friday, November 7, 2008

Botany Coloring Pages - too many to believe!



This morning I came across this GREAT page with TONS of botany coloring pages to print or download as well as a seperate page with a coloring guide to the correct color of the plants! :) I'm just pouring over it this morning and printing more than I care to admit! :) I hope you enjoy it - I will also add it to our links page.

Sunday, November 2, 2008

Living Nature Books....The History of Insects

The History of Insects
I must first apologize for the lack of nature study entries I've had over the past month or so. The elections this year have been so incredibly important to me ~ they seem to have taken up so much of my time. I had forgotten what this log is really about~ and that is helping our children to discover the amazing gifts God has given us! His beautiful creation that is such a gift and not to be forgotten!

A dear friend sent me an email a christian woman had put out and in it, she discusses our roles in the current state of things. As Christians ~ the MOST important thing we can do is pray - pray- and pray some more. The Lord will place in command of this country who He sees fit for His will. Whether it be to "wake us up" to our sins or to lead us back into a God fearing country ~ it is HIS will. So ~ I need to let it be ~ of course not to say its not important to pray and pray about it and OF COURSE VOTE! this Tuesday ---but I want to get back to what the Lord calls me to do ---and that is educate my children and use my passion, interest, and abilities in nature study to help others with thier children's education as much as I humbly can :) :).

So --- ENOUGH of the election on THIS blog :) ;) ! And I apologize to those of you who have been such devout readers and whom I've neglected the past month or so by not sharing our studies! :)


The children and I have continued nature studies ~ though not as diligently as usual and I'm sorry for that but I have taken pictures and notes on all that we have done and my goals is to post it all for you this upcoming week.

We've planted our fall annuals ~ including pansies ~ which have their own lesson in The Handbook of Nature Study.


We've completed our "Weeds & Seeds" three part series with a fantastic study on Dandelions (blog post on this is almost complete - check back - this was a great one!) And also an ongoing seed study as we continue to harvest, dry, and package our seeds for next year. This has been such an exciting time as we harvest and talk about harvesting in the Bible and how we relate to the Biblical times. It went well with our Ancient Egypt studies from The Story of the World ~
see our Nile River projects also!











The kids have planted their spring bulbs after I received a blog post from Barb at Handbook of Nature Study about her gorgeous bulbs. We then divided our own perrenials and moved their bulbs or gave them away.


The grasshopper study was TONS of fun and suprising - even for mom :) - there was so much information in The Handbook of Nature Study and the children had a great time really looking at our grasshopper friends and releasing them. The blog from that study as well as a "lesson plan" that I wrote up to use with the HNS for this topic will be uploaded this week. You'll find the release of the grasshoppers was the best part of the study as we marvelled at the amazing distance they were able to travel in one jump!



I can't forget the other fall activities --- the corn maze, pumpkin carving, gathering fallen leaves and pinecones, and making a fall wreath out of our gathered materials... the blogs should be great this week as I document our adventures. ;)


Now --- The History of Insects -- this is a GREAT little living science book about insects for the early elementary grades. It can be found for free at
Project Gutenberg.
The files here are in html, however, it wasn't in a pdf format or word doc format so it was quite difficult to isolate just a page to print or particular insect. If you are like me, you don't always print entire books at once. Paper and ink have become expensive so I print weeks or subjects worth of the online books as they are needed. To do this, I copied the online book into a word document. It is available here for you. I hope this helps. We will be using the introduction, History of Insects, as well as the Honey Bee section this week to try to wrap up our insect studies during the (probably) last mild weather week we'll have here in Virginia. :)


Another great living science book on Insects is The Insect Folke by Margaret Warner Morley. You can find this literature online free also at Project Gutenberg. Here is a link for this book.

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Prayers for our country needed NOW!


I saw this in my HEAV email this morning and thought it was too important not to pass along...
The Upcoming Elections - A Call to Prayer

"If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land." 2 Chronicles 7:14 (KJV)

As the elections approach, please spend extra time on your knees for this land--we are in desperate need of God's healing. During WWII, an advisor to Winston Churchill organized a group of people who dropped what they were doing every night at a prescribed hour for one minute of collective prayer for the safety of England and its people, and for peace. There is now a group of people organizing the same thing here in America. They are asking people to stop at 9 p.m. Eastern Time and spend one minute praying for the safety of the United States, our troops, and our citizens; for peace in the world; for the upcoming election; that the Bible will remain the basis for the laws governing our land; and that Christianity would grow in the U.S.

If you know anyone who would like to participate, please pass this along. Someone said if people really understood the full extent of the power we have available through prayer, we might be speechless. Our prayers are the most powerful asset we have.

[ Modified from a note we received from Penny Richardson ND, CNHP. Thank you, Penny, for sharing! ]

Monday, October 20, 2008

Virginia Senate Race - Mark Warner speaks harshly against Christians, Pro lifers, Homeschoolers...

MARK WARNER FINALLY ADMITS TO DEMEANING REMARKS ATTACKING PEOPLE OF CHRISTIAN FAITH, PRO-LIFERS, HOME SCHOOLERS AND THE NRA

October 12, 2008 For Immediate Release

MARK WARNER FINALLY ADMITS TO DEMEANING REMARKS ATTACKINGPEOPLE OF CHRISTIAN FAITH, PRO-LIFERS, HOME SCHOOLERS AND THE NRA

Gilmore Campaign Demands Warner Apologize for the Remarks and for Lying About ThemAlexandria - The Jim Gilmore for Senate Campaign released a statement today after Mark Warner admitted this weekend that he made disparaging remarks about people of Christian faith, pro-lifers, home schoolers and NRA members -- calling them "threatening" to "what it means to be an American": "After repeatedly denying for years that he made these intolerant statements, Mark Warner this weekend finally owned up to the hurtful remarks after an audio recording of him making these demeaning comments was made public, " said Ana Gamonal, the Gilmore Campaign Communications Director. "What is even sadder than his admitting that he had lied, after of years of denial, is the best Mark Warner could offer was that his comments were perhaps "over the top" and that he had "learned a lot" since then, with no offer of an apology to the people he attacked by inferring they were un-American," Gamonal said.[1] "Mark Warner owes Virginians several apologies. One, for making these statements in the first place; Second, for repeatedly "angrily" denying he did so and calling those who were confronting him on it, "disrespectful", when in fact he was the one being disrespectful.[2]And third, for his lack of sincerity throughout this entire Senate campaign, where he has attempted to paint himself as a "centrist", while at the same time attesting to the sentiments expressed in these statements, by affirming he would not support Supreme Court justices like of Justice Scalia or Justice Thomas, calling them "out of the mainstream," Gamonal declared.[3] "Now, Virginians will be able to hear first hand and in his own words, how Mark Warner really feels about so many of the values Virginians hold dear."
Click here to hear the audio recording: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpicD6UIq8A

"One of the things you are going to see is a coalition that is just about completely taken over the Republican Party in this state and if they have their way it's going to take over state government. It is made up of the Christian Coalition, but not just them. It is made up of the right-to-lifers, but not just them. It's made up of the NRA, but not just them. It is made up of the home schoolers, but not just them. It's made up of a whole coalition of people that have all sorts of differing views that I think most of us in this room would find threatening to what it means to be an American." Mark Warner, May 1994 ________________________________________

[1] Quotes taken from the Northern Virginia Daily 10/11/08
[2] Quotes taken from the Richmond Times-Dispatch 10/31/2001
[3] Quote taken from the Virginian Pilot 10/4

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

The "un" socialized issue...

The "un"socialized Issue...

For most of us who homeschool- this wouldn't even be considered an "issue". However, we still deal with the rest of the world. If there was a world of just homeschooled kids/parents - well then - the "un" socialized issue wouldn't be an issue at all! :) Am I right?

I started this blog with the picture to the left because believe it or not - this is my "Shy Guy"! Yes, this was the 3 year old that clung to my leg the first day of preschool - which was with my neighbor at our neighborhood church! This is my 4 year old (the county pushed me and I did NOT know better at the time) Kindergartener who BEGGED me to stay at home! He couldn't stand it. I KNEW it --- and yet the "socialized" issue of today's standards forced me to go against my inner knowledge. And what is that "inner knowledge" really? To me- it's my own instincts - God - speaking to me - God's gift of maternal instincts -- and yet - I pushed this BABY - because at 4 years old -aren't they really babies???? I hugged him, assured him he would be okay, and pulled out of the parking lot. Then I fell into MY MOTHER'S ARMS and cried and cried. I KNEW BETTER but couldn't stand up to society's idea of "education and socialization".


I saw this question on a yahoo group post recently that generated quite a bit of responses. The post was as follows--

Date: Monday, October 13, 2008, 5:51 PM

"Hello! First, let me apologize for the mass email, but this seemed to be the easiest way to get my question out to the most amount of people in the shortest amount of time. I'm a mom first and seriously contemplating homeschooling my 7 year old daughter come sept for her grade 3 year. I'm also a masters of ed student who currently takes a lot of flak from fellow educators for my support and choice to homeschool my daughter. So, because of this flak, I'm doing my thesis on homeschooling and socialization. So far, ALL the literature within academics so far speaks to the positive aspects of homeschooling. And yet, academics still don't acknoweldge this. So, I'm going one step furthuer and trying to find homeschool articles and personal accounts of what socialization is for those who currently homeschool or have done so in the past. If you can help in anyway (cause this is to also help convince my hubby that this IS the right decision for our daughter) would be greatly appreaciated.

Please email me off line though at dandelionsmom.

Nicole, Dandelions mom, Future homeschool mom

I began typing an email to Nicole about my personal experiences with the socialization of homeschooled children. Of course, the email ended up being QUITE long and so I thought I'd go ahead and share it with you all through the blog. I'm sure it will hit the mark with so many of you! :)

Here was my response to her:

"Your post asked to email you offline so I didn't reply to all. I hope that's okay. I'm going to be blogging about this very same issue soon. I've even thought about doing nothing more than an entirely pictoral blog of my children socializing :) and not have to say a word. I will let you know when its done. In the meantime, I also had my son in public school until last year and socialization was admittedly my husband's and MY largest concern. If you do not homeschool or do not know anyone personally who does - it can be scary.

But once I started, it was like, "what was I worried about?" lol. I began homeschooling my twin girls this year as well and I have no intentions of ever going back to state schools. My son has MORE of a social life now than he ever did in public school. From my own experience - I do not see where they obtain any real socialization skills in state schools. They are stuck at a desk all day long. They lose priveliges if they speak to each other. The state has cut their available recess time to 20 minutes per day - yes folks, 20 minutes- for what was then a 6 year old boy! 20 minutes out of his chair - mostly they just took off running outside to let off their energy and before they could really have enough time to "socialize"- to see who they might connect with- it was time to go back in. Worse yet, the privelige that they lose if they speak in class IS recess time. When can they "socialize"? Not at lunch either! My son's school (and this is not a "bad" public school. It was brand new and in a "great school district") anyway, in his cafeteria they LITERALLY had a stoplight installed. When the stoplight was yellow- the entire cafeteria had to whisper because if the noise level went up at all - the stoplight went to red and guess what? NO TALKING! And can I tell you - anyone who has children knows this- if you take 5 classes of 26 children that ran the ages of 5-7 years and leave them in a desk with "busy work" most of the day because the teacher is dealing (alone mind you) with one of the 3-6 "bad" students and take away the small 20 minutes of recess- the lunchroom is NOT going to be quiet. They can't help it! I truly believe their little bodies can't help it. Each time I was in the cafeteria (which was at least once per week) - that light was on red at a minimum of 10 minutes - out of a 30 minute lunch. I have been in there with my son during times that the light stayed red the ENTIRE time!! Where IS the socialization???

My son had a teacher last year when I pulled him out of public school that actually ENCOURAGED homeschooling. I would never tell the school this and cause problems for her but she was amazing. She was alone in a classroom with 26 1st graders!! 5-6 of which were being reviewed for "emotional" or learning problems or the big state school push on ADHD. She had been teaching for 15 years and said most of her close knit friends that had been teaching as long as she had- had either pulled their children or their grandchildren out of state schools and were homeschooling them! She told me that her husband begged her to retire because teaching wasn't a joy for her anymore - after 15 years she barely made it through her day with her sanity. She said when she first began teaching, the kids had plenty of outdoor time, time to talk on the playground, to make friends, to giggle at lunch --- and they wonder why so many young children -especially boys- are aggressive and frustrated -- or "ADHD".

Anyway- from my own PERSONAL experience - I can vouch for the completely reversed socialization question. Most every homeschool child I have met since we began this amazing journey has been far more socialized than any public school child I had to work with. I'm sure since you've mentioned the statistics you've read, that you are aware of the positives. I sat at a park with my new "homeschool mom" friends when we first began homeschooling and marveled at the "social" skills of these children!! To them, it was normal--- kids speaking to adults with ease, no nervousness or shyness. Older kids and younger kids all playing together. Older kids helping the younger kids. No bullying or mean spiritedness. Sharing!!! Sharing without being told to share more importantly!! Laughing and just plain having fun! Families together - sharing the same circle of friends and enjoyment. Moms talking to other moms' children - not in a fake way but KNOWING them and having REAL conversations! I was so blown away that I knew in my heart that it was right for us.

I didn't touch upon the bullying and violence and lack of morals in state schools today. That is another "socialization" issue - I will mention one thing, "If the peer pressure, violence, degredation of morals, lack of self control, lack of manners, lack of plain, old kindness, every child on Ritalin, every child having to share in the same history or beliefs no matter what their own thoughts, sexuality of children, loss of morals, I could go on- anyway - if this is what the state schools and general society consider socialization - they can have it! I'd rather my children be hermits!!

My son was shy, not one to necessarily start the conversation but so easy to get along with and laid back once he did. I honestly worried that he may become more withdrawn if I homeschooled him. That was one of my biggest concerns. What I have experienced is a now a confident, moral, friendly, strong young man. Homeschooling was the BEST thing I ever did for his social life! He's active in tae kwon do (3 days per week minimum) - even to the point of sparring every friday night in front of a room full of peers and older children and adults. Competing in martial arts tournaments and jumping up in front of a panel and room full of people for belt testing. He takes Spanish, PE, and Science classes once a week with a homeschool coop group. He heads over to an "open gym" every friday for the afternoon and I barely get a quick "bye mom!" before he's run off looking for someone to play with! Of course, they also have friends at church and other activities just like any other child that attends public schools. We go on field trips, bowling with other homeschoolers, BINGOs, play dates, birthday parties, park days weekly when the weather is nice. We go to other children's homes and have their friends over our home for play. When he was in public school - outside of a birthday party once or twice a year - there wasnt any socializing outside of school. We attend shows, plays, special events. My twin 5 year old daughters and I recently attended a CYT play of "Snow White" that one of our coop friends was performing in. Most of the girls from our coop were there and they had so much fun!

There are, of course, so many studies and books that promote the positive roles that homeschooling plays in healthy socialization. There is certainly the moral factor - largely due the omission of the Bible and God in our schools - but that is another subject. I'm not sure why there is still the "socialization stigma" on homeschooling other than lack of knowledge. People are afraid of what they don't know - or things that are outside society's "norms" or they don't want to feel guilty that they choose not to give their life to their own children and homeschool them. They don't want to think about having to give up some of the material things that come with two working parents or their own ambitions and goals to stay home and do what the Lord calls us to do in home education. I have pulled up lists of famous and "important" American figures that were homeschooled - obviously capable of socializing. There are quotes from competent and intelligent Americans and World leaders concerning the lack of christianity and moral education in our schools. You can find it with a simple google search. I'm currently reading an amazing book by R.C. Sproul Jr. titled, "When You Rise Up". His passion and case for parents being the children's educators is moving. Of course, there are so many books and studies with positive homeschooling results. There's James Dobson, Greg Harris, James McDonald. Phil Lancaster, Douglas Phillips - and two of the "pioneers" Raymond Moore and John Holt. Raymond Moore being a former employee of the US Department of Education and Holt, an ivy league graduate and teacher.

Here is a link to a 2003 study conducted on the "first generation" of homeschoolers who are now adults and the impact of homeschooling on their lives. This study specifically targets socialization questions and results of formerly homeschooled students in comparison with adults of the same age group from the general US population. The study provides critics with the proof that "...homeschooling produces successful adults who are actively involved in their communities and who continue to value education for themselves and for their children." ~conclusion taken from the study. The link to study results and a pdf of the full study is
http://www.hslda.org/research/ray2003/default.asp

I'm certain you will find all of the answers you are looking for in statistics, studies, books, and the Internet but I wanted to give you a personal experience to think about. Please feel free to email me with any questions. :) I'd love to help in any way that I can. :)

Now that I've written so much :) I'm going to post this to my blog along with the pictures I told you about. You can find it (it might be especially helpful to show your hubby) at
http://homeschoolnaturestudy.blogspot.com/

http://www.cafepress.com/homeschoolnatur"

I'm sure so many of you come across this "issue" and I hope this helps you feel supported in knowing what you are doing is THE BEST thing for your children! If my experience can ease even one homeschooling mom's mind ~ then its worth the post!

Blessings! Tiffany

Happy & Socialized









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